It’s been a minute, hello.
I had the urge to write this post for anyone who has a rocky relationship with food &/or their body image.
The Holidays are TOUGH. Not feeling in control of what food you have at celebrations, hearing all kinds of diet talk, comments on people’s bodies, and the always present “I’ve got to make up for this staring the New Year!” This time of year is filled with triggers, I get it. It can be completely consuming.
I don’t have a golden answer to help take the pain & discomfort of this time of year away. I can tell you to set boundaries with family members & friends by asking them to not talk about their diets or other peoples bodies or to simply change the conversation. I can tell you to just try to eat normally or to allow yourself freedom to eat all you want at the parties (both of which strategies I’ve implemented through the years). But at the end of it all, it’s still TOUGH.
I don’t say this to be a debbie downer, I say this because it can be easy to beat yourself up for feeling stressed & overwhelmed with disordered thoughts about food & body image while it appears that everyone around you is thriving. I’ve spent my fair share of Holiday gatherings sitting at a table holding back tears, unable to fully engage in conversation because I was so worried about what the food I ate was going to do to my body… and absolutely hating the fact that those thoughts were running through my head.
I just wanted to validate the difficulties that this time of year bring for anyone with any kind of disordered relationship to food & their body. It’s ok to struggle. It’s ok if your thoughts are messy. Remember that the pain & discomfort you feel won’t last forever. Just as sure as Spring comes each year, this season will end, & you will come out just a little stronger if you allow it.
My heart goes out to each of you & I want you to know you are not alone!! The road ahead today & these next few weeks is not easy AND there are many beautiful opportunities to build resilience on this bumpy road.
Please reach out to a loved one, to a follow warrior, the NEDA helpline or to ME if you need someone to give you support through your battles. There is strength found in reaching out… I can testify this through multiple years of pain that I kept to myself being healed through just a moment of asking for support!